Dealing dating disappointments
A good salesperson stays upbeat because they know that for each "no" they get, they are one negative response closer to a "yes." Take what you can learn from each person and just say "next!" As you stop taking it personally and resisting the process you will find it gets easier and even fun to play the dating game.If you’ve made some changes and you’re still getting negative matches in your inbox, stop fretting, and delete them.If there is one thing for certain, disappointment is a part of dating. They believe that they are going to join an online dating service and magically "the right one" will show up immediately.
Dating is difficult—you’re trying to show your best self without looking like a braggart; you’re trying to open yourself to another human being’s soul while also hoping your bangs aren’t doing that weird flip. Call a good friend—the one who sees your very best self—and make dinner plans.It can feel frustrating, heartbreaking, rage-inducing and confusing all at once.But the most important thing to remember is it’s not a reflection of you, and is linked to that person’s own bulls**t.And your matches are making judgments based on a singular profile on a computer screen— so they cannot truly “reject” or “accept” until they meet you. Reality check: Sometimes simple shifts in your profile or preferences can keep these unsavory matches at bay.
But just like at a bar, any member can approach you.There is no magic crystal ball to tell you when he is going to show up in your life (unless you have a really good psychic to consult).